Cutting ties with toxic people is the greatest thing you can do for yourself. There’s nothing great in being surrounded with toxic friends, partners or family members.
It’s like being full of doubt all the time, and it’s almost impossible to stop asking yourself whether your mind is tricking you. No, it’s not. You’re being played by people in your surrounding, and it’s really important that you recognize them.
In this article, we give you a list of things toxic people do to manipulate you to their advantage. It’s time to protect yourself.
1. They are never the same
Toxic people are cool and charming one day, and you get a cold treatment next day. This makes you question your actions, and you even try to solve a problem that doesn’t exist.
It’s time to realize that it was never about you. This is nothing but an effort to manipulate with you. You will never please this person, and nothing you do affects their mood, happiness, pleasure and displeasure.
2. You’re always in debt
A toxic person will do you a favor or give you something. Truth is, your gift comes with a price. This person will give you something you always wanted but couldn’t afford.
But, your toxic friend or partner will ask you to do something in return. It’s usually something that puts you in a serious situation, and you probably won’t be able to do that.
3. They come at you out of nowhere
This happens without a warning. This person will start accusing you of things you didn’t do, and you won’t even be prepared for the attack. In this way they have enough power to say you are guilty for whatever they accuse you.
Try not to get involved in this. This person has created some sort of drama in their head. All you have to do is take a deep breath, and put the conversation to an end. You don’t have to put up with someone’s trashy behavior.
4. They project their feelings on you
They will start asking if you have a problem with them. Where did this question come from? You will end up in tears, because the situation will be too hard for you to consume.
It will take a lot of time before you realize that they only want to talk about them. They’d project their problem on you instead of talking about it. They don’t really have a problem with you.
Don’t even try to defend yourself against an accusation that’s in no way related to you.
5. They are always right and don’t apologize
Toxic people always go against logic. They don’t even pay attention to facts. They only thing they care about is their statement. Your toxic friend will stand by this forever, twisting facts and manipulating you.
Try to give up the need to get an apology. You won’t get it. It’s more than enough that you know the truth.
6. You will feel diminished even about great things
Toxic people are never happy for people around them. They will always find a way to kill your happiness. Bought a new car? They will start trashing the company, saying you should have picked better. You may the most brilliant thing in life, and they will still find something to use against your plans.
Put this person on the no-list. You don’t need that negativity in your life. Stay away from this person as soon as possible.
7. They disappear to punish you
They will disappear in the middle of a big plan or discussion. You will not be able to reach for them, and they won’t even pick up the phone. You will be left all puzzled and confused.
What’s going on? Is this silence somehow related to you? Did you do anything wrong? Truth is, the person can’t face the current situation, and they have decided to punish you. This behavior is hurting you, and it won’t stop. Do you really need this person in your life?
8. They use innocent language to hurt you
Toxic people have the power to turn an innocent statement into something horrible with the help of their tone. They will keep accentuating parts of the sentence to irritate you with the only purpose to belittle you.
Try to remember that you are a good person, and that you are valuable to someone. Nothing this toxic friend/partner says should hurt you.
9. They never discuss situations
Toxic people never use logic. They don’t understand it. If you plan to make a statement or offer an explanation, forget it.
They won’t respond to your comments, and will focus on old issues to blame you for the chaos in your relationship. They may apologize, but their apology will actually make you feel guilty. You will never win an argument with a toxic person.
It’s all in your response. Will you rely on the nasty comments this person make? Or will you listen to your mind?