Do you try to please others? How often do you do things just to make someone happy? Being disapproved by society is a real nightmare for some individuals. Even herders in tribes pleased others just to stay with the group.
If you often find yourself in a situation that forces you to please someone, it’s time to change something in your life. This habit is destroying your self-esteem.
Are you looking for an approval from your friends and family? Your coworkers? It’s like giving up on your own values for their priorities.
It’s time to get over the fear, and make a progress. It’s time to become aware of the fact that your own approval is the only validation you need in life.
1. The root of the fear
Sink deeper in your thoughts. Go back to your childhood. What’s your biggest fear? What planted the fear of rejection? You have to find the source of your fear. This will help you find the solution to your problem.
Did your parents force you to get A-s in school? Is this why you believe that anything below the upper limit is unacceptable? Did you try really hard to fit in a group?
2. Don’t undermine yourself
Value everything you do in life. Respect yourself, and others will respect you. Your time isn’t expendable. Speak out every time you disagree with someone. You are a person on your own, and you can see things differently than others. There’s nothing wrong with you. It’s just a different point of view.
Your own satisfaction is more important than anything else. Stop pleasing others, and do the right for you.
3. Failure is the best teacher
Failing gives you the best lesson in life. It helps you find the right path in life. Of course, you will have to make a few mistakes in life before you reach your full potential.
Being disapproved by someone isn’t bad. It’s actually a feedback. Nobody is perfect, and we all make mistakes.
There’s a huge difference between constructive criticism and degradation. The first can help you, while the other will destroy your self-confidence.
You will never make everyone happy. Pleasing others makes you vulnerable, and people will keep degrading you. Love yourself, and appreciate everything you’ve done in life. Stand strong and go for another challenge.