Spanking is a common form of punishment in the US, and experts warn about its damaging effect on children’s mental health
Did your parents spank you to punish you in childhood? According to a recent analysis, over 70 percent of American adults accept spanking as a form of punishment. Truth is, spanking harms children’s mental health. Children may never recover as the mental damage is too aggressive.
There’s no excuse for spanking and parents need to find another way to teach their children what’s wrong and what’s right.
Favoring physical punishment
Experts at the Academy of Pediatrics explain that spanking should never be an option?
The Midwestern part of the US approves spanking more than other parts of the country. Educational level also dictates whether or not a person would spank their children. Educated people are less likely to spank their children.
People with high school education or less tend to spank their children. Most parents hit their children when there’s anger, fear, stress, etc.
Spanking makes things worse. We are all humans and sometimes it’s hard to cope with a tantrum after a long day. But, hitting a child after every mistake is horrible, and tends to develop into a much bigger problem over time. Hitting never resolves anything.
Physical discipline doesn’t work
Hitting a child is in no way a disciplinary method. We all make mistakes and we should definitely learn how to handle each situation. We give you a few simple reasons to understand that spanking is never an option.
1. Violence is in no way good
Physical correction teaches children that hitting is a good way of solving conflicts. It’s contradictory to societal norms and children are ashamed.
2. Hurting a child causes an irreversible damage
Why would you hit your child? You are not doing them good. please, try to understand that pain won’t teach your child anything. It will only damage their mental health.
Parenting requires a lot of love and patience. Try to find other discipline methods.
3. Hitting a child damages you too
Do you feel bad after hitting a child? It will make you doubt your parenting skills, causing remorse, and giving you guilt. Hitting actually makes you a bully. Your child needs a leader in life and a true supporter.
4. Hitting destroys your child’s self-esteem
Spanking damages a child’s ego, making them feel as if they are not doing things right. It makes them feel as if there’s something wrong about them. Children won’t question their behavior because they only think of the pain you are causing. Hitting causes body image issues and “kills” a child’s self-esteem.
5. Children feel as if there’s nowhere to go
Every time you bend over your child to hit them, they feel helpless. Their behavior may become even worse. When someone feels helpless, they act even worse. Spanking makes kids worse.
6. Spanking reflects your poor coping skills
Parents need to be calm. Hitting will only teach children that you have anger issues and poor coping skills.
7. Hitting crosses children’s personal boundaries
Today, people respect their bodies and keep everyone out of their personal space. We are taught how to stop people before they cross our boundaries. But, spanking a child actually breaks its trust and destroys their security.
8. Hitting is not a way of a communication
Children can’t really talk when they feel angry or act out. Wait for them to calm down and talk about the real problem. This will be more effective than hitting.
9. Bad beginning
Spanking a child is the last thing you can ever do. There’s no way to go from here. Sometimes “innocent” spanking turns into physical abuse. It won’t make you feel better and your child will feel even worse.
10. Spanking doesn’t work
Simple as that. Spanking a child will never solve the problem, and your child may start acting even worse.
Spanking and child abuse
Some experts would agree that spanking is child abuse. A tiny tap on the hand will show a child that they have done something wrong. But, hitting a 15-year-old is a different story.
Child abuse is any action that leads to physical and psychological neglect of a child. Spanking causes both mental and physical pain, so it’s classified as abuse. In some parts of the country, parents are allowed to spank their children if the hits don’t leave any physical marks behind.
If Child Protective Services workers or police officers see any bruises, burns, and strange marks, they can remove a child from their parent.
Approved forms of punishment
Spanking is not acceptable, and there are other approved ways of punishing a child.
1. Stern talk
Talk about your child’s behavior and try to help them understand. Older children require more talking. Calling names and threatening is not an option here!
A calm voice can do much more than yelling!
Send your children to their home or us a “naughty chair.” Give them enough time to think about their actions, but make sure it’s not too long. Experts recommend one minute per each year of age. A five-year-old should sit for five minutes.
Withhold things that your child likes. This may be a computer, video games, phone, hanging out with friends, etc. This method is more efficient in older kids.
Ground your child to give them time to think about the things they have done. During this time, the kid has to stay in their room and come out to have their meals or use the bathroom. No fun activities!
Parenting is hard and challenging. You are raising a child and you need to give your best to teach them right. Spanking won’t help you achieve anything. Your child’s mental health is important. instead of spanking, think of some other acceptable forms of discipline.