The 12 Commandments of Successful, Lasting, and Happy Relationships

Having someone who understands and respects you is like a dream come true, and unfortunately, not everyone is involved in a healthy relationship.

There are 12 commandments to help you build a strong relationship.

1. Trust and honesty

You can’t expect a healthy relationship if there’s no trust and honesty. Without these, you will deal with jealousy and insecurities, and your relationship will become a torture.

You have to trust each other. “Trust Takes Years To Build, Seconds To Break And Forever To Repair” -- Dhar Mann

2. Presence

Yes, we are all busy and distracted by everything around us. But, you have to be here for your partner. That’s what relationships are all about.

You have to show up and show interest in your partner’s desires, career and favorite coffee! Listen to what they say, and focus on your relationship. Forget about the past and dream about the future.

3. Commitment

Words are nothing if you don’t keep your promises. Staying in a relationship means showing interest in that person and choosing them over and over again.

4. Crystal clear communication

You have to understand what your partner says, does, likes or dislikes. It’s really important that you understand them and agree to disagree.

That’s how you avoid unnecessary drama. Learn how to express your emotions. We’re not perfect, but having a clear communication will help you get over every problem.

5. Quality time

Spend your free time doing fun activities and enjoy your humor. Talk about things that excite you, and have a romantic dinner or picnic date.

6. Healthy boundaries

Spending time alone is helpful and healthy. You have to create healthy boundaries to make sure that your relationship will last forever. Don’t choke each other with boredom.

Focus on your personal growth, and enjoy your time alone. That’s how you will be happy in a relationship. You have to be happy with yourself first.

7. Acceptance

You aren’t perfect, and there’s nothing wrong with being upset about some of your partner’s actions. But, you should never ever try to change your partner completely. You have to accept them for who they are. They will do things differently, and that’s fine.

8. Intimacy

Deep conversations are better than physical attraction. That’s how you build a healthy relationship. Couples build intimacy over many years. But, you have to learn how to open your soul first.

9. Gratitude

You should never ever take someone for granted. Be grateful for your relationship and the way you two work together. Appreciate all the things your partner does for you. Even the tiniest compliment goes a long way.

10. Patience

Impatience is a major problem in relationships. Be patient. Things will fall to place, and you have to be patient until that happens. Don’t yell at your partner for breaking things unintentionally or forgetting to buy something from the supermarket.

11. Compassion

Show them you care. Try to understand what your partner goes through, and do some of the things that make them happy. Don’t test your partner’s patience.

It’s time to build a healthy relationship with a lot of compassion. “If you want others to be happy, practice compassion,” Dalai Lama once said.

12. Respect

This is probably the most important aspect of every relationship. It’s the foundation of your relationship. Without respect, you will lose yourself in a labyrinth of lies, tears and frustrations.

Carroll Bryant said, “Love is a two-way street constantly under construction.”



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