Long-term mental abuse has been found to lead to anxiety, and numerous mental disorders can arise from chronic stress and trauma.
Yet, even though numerous people ignore the possible consequences of mental abuse, experts agree that it can be as harmful as physical abuse, and both, cyberbullying and real-life verbal abuse, affect both hemispheres of the human brain and cause serious health issues.
Insults and disrespect lead to great suffering, and Sherri Gordon, a published author, and a bullying prevention expert claims that even though it is harder to identify that sexual and physical bullying, verbal abuse can be as dangerous.
Verbal abuse involves a type of verbal interaction that causes a person emotional harm. In most cases, the victim feels worthless, stupid, and inadequate, and questions his/her value.
In a dating relationship, it can be even more difficult to identify verbal abuse, as the partner is not abusive all the time, and when the abuser is loving and gentle, the victim forgets all the negative behavior from before.
The victim usually makes excuses for the bad behavior of the abuser, believing that it is a result of stress or an unpleasant event.
However, the short-term symptoms victims of verbal abuse experience include indecisiveness, low self-esteem, lack of enthusiasm, and overthinking. In the long-term, verbal abuse causes:
- Suicidal thoughts
- Eating disorders
- Digestive issues
- Chronic pain
The following behaviors are clear signs of verbal abuse:
Abusers make others feel useless by showing disrespect.
2. Behind Closed Doors
In most cases, abusers torment their victims behind closed doors, which is even more traumatic, and victims are often confused and unsure if they have been maltreated.
Abused people feel the need to protect themselves, and lack self-confidence, so they spend their time alone, and avoid socializing.
4. Mood Killer
Abusers feed when you are sad, so they make you feel bad in order to be easily controllable.
Name-calling is one of the most common ways to harm you and manipulate others.
They blame others in order to provoke a feeling of guilt and low self-esteem.
Jokes can harm the other person if they are intended to insult or are done without consent and permission of the other.
8. Abusers Are Always Right
These people would never discuss or apologize for their bad behavior, as they believe they are doing nothing wrong.
9. Attack Interests
Abusers tend to make their victim feel worthless, so they attack their hobbies, and things or people that interest them.
If you are a victim of verbal abuse, the first thing you should do is to release the fear and stand up for yourself.
You deserve love, care, and respect, just like any other human being on the planet. If a relative, a partner, a friend, or anyone you know is verbally abusive in order to tear you down in any way, don’t be afraid to reach out for help.
Such behavior needs to be kicked to the curb, so talk to someone you trust, or someone you know that has been through it to support you and offer you options to fight with this.
You need to be aware that if you do not stop it now, you will be hurt even more later, as verbal abuse silently worms in the head and remains there, ruining the way you feel and think, and making you a completely different person, unable to enjoy your own life.